While balance is essential for your happiness, it can be difficult to actually maintain. Here are some ways that you can live a more balanced life!
By: Chloe Persichetti
Dear whoever needs to read this,
Imbalanced lives happen when one facet is given more time and energy than others. Maybe your work life is thriving, but you can’t seem to fuel your body the right way and keep it healthy; or, you finally hit your workout goal, but seem to never be able to keep a significant other. When you only focus on a single aspect of your life, other aspects fall by the wayside.
Feeling “out of whack” or “not yourself” can sometimes mean you are not fully in control. It’s easy to let life take the reins, and once it does, you have no choice but to go wherever it takes you. Seriously considering what you want out of your life and taking time to establish a reasonable list of short and long term goals will be imperative for achieving a life that makes you happy. However, this can be difficult to do when you have so much on your plate. This leads us directly to the first step on your way to creating a balanced life that provides you with inner peace.
Straightening Out Your Priorities
The priorities in your life need to be straightened out before you can achieve inner peace. Once you understand what comes first in your life, you won’t find yourself having to make sudden, difficult decisions that may or may not lead you to happiness. Who here has committed to an idea or activity in the past, only to later think back and question, “Why would I ever agree to something like that?” We’ve all been there. Know yourself and stand firm in your priorities. If you can prevent yourself from signing up for things that don’t align with your priorities, you can greatly limit the amount of unfruitful commitments that you make.
Plan ahead: short-term and long-term goals with dates. This ensures that you are consistently working on goals. Once you meet a goal, it will feel amazing and you’ll have the momentum to keep reaching for more and more.
Be ready for anything that could come your way. Life is full of surprises, both good and bad, and it’s never fun when you are ill-prepared to face a challenge. It can seriously hamper your progress, and your life can fall back into a state of imbalance. One way to combat this is to have savings and a plan that will help you regardless of what comes your way. This will allow you to stay balanced during your life.
Lastly, keep inner motivations for other tasks – have other projects you are working on outside of work so you can take back power; know that you are more than your daily profession. Coming into work every morning and knowing you have other life goals that you’re working on may actually breathe life into your daily activities, helping to keep you feeling alive and moving with purpose.
“To conquer oneself is a greater task than conquering others.” – Buddha
Who’s That Suave Animal
You need to set your confidence at 10! You’re only you once, so take a moment to care about yourself. Brush your hair, and take pride in how you look. It doesn’t have to consume you, but an additional 5 to 10 minutes in the morning will surprisingly give you a little boost that you’ll start to love. Additionally, always be considering this: what makes you happy? Sprinkling a few little things that make you smile throughout the day will greatly improve your quality of life.
Maybe you like skincare – buy that face mask you’ve been looking at. Maybe your passion is fishing, in which case you should buy that new pole you’ve had your eye on recently. Though it may not make fiscal sense to buy something when a cheaper version will work the same way, treating yourself every so often will make you happy. You deserve to splurge from time to time! Don’t go overboard with this, but every once in a while you should allow yourself to go all out, as a reminder that you’re all THAT and more!
Once you have taken care of yourself, then you will be in a place to help others. Giving to others will bring happiness to your life as well. Knowing that helping will make you feel great is only one of the many reasons to help others.
“If you light a lamp for somebody. It will also brighten your path.” – Buddha
Take Control Where You Can
Food is a large part of our lives. Your mind and body are directly related. It’s important that you keep the body nourished with the right foods. I’m not saying a crazy diet here – just be happy and maintain good portion control! At the end of the day, we are all different; you know what makes your body feel its best. Continue with those foods and live a great life while always remembering to drink water and not to overeat when you feel like you shouldn’t.
Along with eating properly, getting some movement is vital for your brain and bodily health! Walk around, take the stairs and possibly try an activity that gets you moving in ways you wouldn’t normally. Remaining mobile is key to living life on your terms.
Another aspect that you can control is the group of friends that you surround yourself with. While often overlooked, it can be important to maintain a varied friend group. Surrounding yourself with varied outlooks and points of view is a great way to not become stagnant, and it also can diversify your world outlook.
Emotional intelligence can increase just as knowledge can. Regardless of where your emotional IQ is now, it can be improved. This means managing your emotions by creating healthy ways to approach stress and anger. Spend time discovering the ways you communicate best. If you haven’t worked on this before, you will quickly see how great these exercises can be! Freeing your mind from unwanted thoughts and knowing how to deal with them is wonderful.
Remember, no matter how difficult something can be, it’s important to work on every aspect of your life – not just the ones it would be easy to work on.
“To keep the body in good health is a duty…otherwise, we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear” – Buddha
Maintain A Positive Outlook
Your mental outlook on life must be positive. Begin with tiny changes, such as changing “I have to” to “I get to.” This spurs gratefulness and trains the mind to think in a more positive manner. We often forget how lucky we are when our blessings occur every day. Getting to go to work and to choose the food you eat daily are opportunities that not everyone has. Remind yourself of these daily gifts and you will begin to experience a more meaningful life. Never dwell on the past, but now and again, take a moment to remember when you weren’t happy where you were. Now look how far you’ve come!
Don’t compare yourself to others – focus on being the best version of you. The best piece of advice is to go through your socials and unfollow anyone who doesn’t add value to your life. Turn into Marie Kondo for a moment and ask if these people bring you joy.
Write an on-going list in your phone notes of everything that you believe characterizes you. All of those qualities that you love about yourself will make you smile and truly allow you to physically see that you are amazing. No one else has your skills, and working on being the best version of yourself will make you unstoppable.
Find humor in everything. Training your mind to approach the world in this way may take a little practice, but once you get it, it can improve your quality of life forever. Try watching some YouTube videos that you think are funny or some comedic movies. Whatever you need to do to find some laughter and humor in your day is important! After a little practice, you’ll be able to generate this laughter in your everyday life without relying on the assistance of others.
These are only some of the countless ideas that allow you to reach a life of balance. Your heart knows what’s best for you – listen to it! We hope this opened your eyes a little, and remember that making these changes doesn’t always come easily. Understand that the process of balancing your life will potentially be slow at the beginning. However, it will all be worth it; you are very special and deserve the best life possible.
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” -Buddha